Pasir Ris Farm

Now that we have found out this place at Pasir Ris Farm 1, just 10min drive from our house. We don't have to go else where for little Gracia to feed those 'hungry fishes'. I wonder if the owner feed them too because they really seems desperate when ever they see someone near, they(the fishes)will swim to you, open their mouth and they seems to be shouting “给我一点吃的吧!”（Give me some food!)










For some reason, Gracia seems to assiociate 'fish' with 'eat'. Maybe because we have been bringing her to feed fish since she was young and now when ever she see fish, she will eventually say eat. lol...

























She really enjoyed the swing pretty much... when ever i slower down, she'll fussed and ask me to do it faster.
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Broken Bridges.

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There is a story about a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She detested everyone except her loving boyfriend, who was always there for her.

One day, she turned to him and said:"If only i could see the world, i will marry you."

It wasn't long someone donated a pair of eyes to her.When the bandages came off, she finally able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her:"Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?"

The girl look at him and saw that he was also blind, just like her before.
She has not expected that and the thought of looking at his closed eyelids for the rest of her life totally turned her off.

Her boyfriend left in tears. Days later, he wrote her a note saying:"Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine."

This story illustrates how selfish - knowingly or otherwise - we can sometimes be.

Lets use this story as a gentle reminder and not forget where we have come from and who had given us a hand when we're down.

Our Cheeky Gal.

I just wanted to post some pics because they make me oh, !

She is cracking me up lately with her cheeky cheeky expression. I love it and she never fail to make us laugh. Ah, . But I think I've said that at every stage of her life. :)

It's been really fun taking pictures of her creamy & cheeky face. I can't help but to edit and change our blog header for a good laughing reason.... lol

A tougher time for couples.

Dual-career couple, frequent and prolonged separation due to work, arguments over different extra-curricular interests, resentful over money issues and young kids to bring up.... Sound familiar? Just to name a few common obstacle modern couple are facing now a day.

I used to dwell on the personal "sacrifices" I was making as a husband and a father, until i realised this: You have to give up some things in order to build something bigger, better and more lasting than you could ever achieve on your own. This is esp real in building a family.

One thing for sure: Marriage isn't for wimps. There's something about marriage that, by definition, requires two people to give up "mine" and "yours" in order to create an "ours". And that's not an easy take consider this generation of focusing too much on individual achievement and self-interest.

Singapore has become a first world country from the 3rd. Our country are more successful than ever and so are our fellow men, and i am glad we are. But the down side is that sometimes we're so focus on achievement, that from childhood, we are encouraged to compere fiercely for success, recognition and material rewards, only to suddenly find these principles ill-suited to marriage. Perhaps that's why it's not uncommon these days to find couples who keep their financial resource secret, who fall out over divergent career demands, or who find it too hard to compromise their career and personal interests to have children.

I am humble to say that in my three years of marriage and one beautiful daughter, I am still finding out how tough it really is for a die-hard self-achiever to change a "me" perspective into an "us". Fortunately i have had enough fun when i was young and i do not hold any resume to become a career man, lol.....
I am just happy to be a loving husband and a caring dad, and what ever i do and sacrifices for my family, i will always do it with the strength of my loving daughter and a supportive and understanding wife.


Note for my wife: The world is going thru a rough time after many FI collapsed . Singapore are not spare from it either, many of us are starting to experience the recession coming thru, I am some how effected by a slowing demand of retail goods and my trips of handphone delivery are fewer than ever and it will affect my pay check somehow... I hope we can brave this tough time together and withstand all the obstical we may face concerning money. I believe we can go thru this together .


Above image are mainly for leisure and entertaining purpose. Both character are impressive fictional and do not represent any one of us.

To spank or not to spank?

In respond to the news on Newpaper on the 8th Noverber 08. .A step father who caned his son for more about 100 strokes using two rattan canes tied together. The boy's injuries were so serious that he had to be warded in hospital for eight days. On Wednesday, the 39-year-old stepfather was jailed nine months for child abuse. The judge also ordered him to undergo counselling in prison.

Times are changing folks, that for sure. No longer is a parent allowed to spank his or her own child for doing something bad. Instead, we send him or her to “timeout” to think about what they did and how they have wronged.

After reading Pastor Barry W. Barnett case, i think
in these politically correct times, the question is, "To spank or not to spank"? When child discipline has moved increasingly out of the home and into courtrooms and legislative assemblies. Take for instance The Pastor Case.

One local newspaper pointed out that spanking has never really gone away, despite studies showing that it might do more harm than good. Researcher also found that spanking was linked to a wide range of negative outcomes in children, such as aggression, mental-health problems and criminal behavior later in life.

Spanking to me is effective only in the short term, and parents who did that often inadvertently abuse their own children. Those who support the use of physical force on tykes often cite their own childhood experience of beating. They argue that it toughened them and served to build character.

Still, government intervention is sometime hit-and-miss, and can backfire down the line. A more sensible option, rather than an across-the board ban, is to try to educate parent well. I suggest free, mandatory-parenting classes for pregnant couples, for example. I don't believe in using physical force when it comes to discipline my own kids. My mum used the cane often when I was growing up, and it only made me resentful and more rebellious.

I will make it a point to reason with my daughter when she grows up, and to explain the consequences of specific action. But when there is an immediate danger, or she is tired or hysterical(because my wife says i can be very speechy on philosophy sometime), a tiny slap on the wrist or on her well-padded diapered bottom is as far as I will go.

Lucky Gracia.

Knock out by html

Since i started blogging. I had try editing, adding and experimenting with the html code from my blogspot template. Somebody recently told me they were so dumb they didn't even know what "html" meant. There are a couple of things I think are wrong with that sentiment. Firstly, dumb means unable to speak, though I think he meant lacking intelligence. To my way of thinking, lacking speech doesn't imply lacking brainpower any more than blindness does! Secondly, lacking the knowledge of any particular thing doesn't imply a lack of brainpower. In Tibet, there are little children who know what bird and rice is called in Tibetant. If you don't, you shouldn't feel bad — I bet they don't know what it's called in English! All this having been said, there are still those who feel the need to know what certain Web related things mean, like myself.

So far, i have learn to add songs, images, links, which is the basic of html and haven't experience much problem. The biggest obstical i had over come was adding a third column into my template, at present all blogspot templates are two column templates. It has a main posts column and a sidebar at the right or left for your Profile and Archives and other widgets you wish to add. I took quite a while to figure it out how to add the third one. But i am glad i had persisted and my perseverence paid off. Recently i had added images on both my side column and relised that it will not extent to the bottom and will only dangle have way.
These column are however of unequal height. The height of the column depends on it's content. If you add more content to the sidebar it increases in length and then you have to add more posts so that the Main Column has a matching height.

So i manage to find templates from different source that are available with faux columns to give an impression of equal height. I downloadad the XML template, uploaded it again to my gangsterdad's template and hope for the best.
I was shocked to see all the layout, widget and gadget gone. I quickly uplaoded my original template which i had backed up in case of such an event, but to my horror, all the gadget and widget are still lost and is no where to be seen on my blog. I was very upset because they were my sweat and perspiration, i had endured sands of hours to construct them brick by brick. But i am not going to give up, and i have learn a lesson, that you cannot save all of your template but only the based and some layout of your template, your widget and gadget will all be lost.



HTML = HyperText Markup Language

Kiss vaccine for my flu

Thanks to Joan for her inspiration, I taped this hopsctoch for Gracia on Sunday when we find ourselves running out of activity to do. Gracia was sitting opposite of me watching me getting busy on the floor. While I was busy taping away, my dear Gracia suddenly came forward to me and gave me a kiss on my cheek. (I didn't ask her to kiss me)Hee. It caught me by surprise and I wonder... she must have seen mummy's love and reciprocated through her kiss? Hee... After that, She was having a hell of a good time at the hopscotch while her daddy was at work on a Sunday. I am now recovering from my flu and persistent migraine, all thanks to Gracia for her kiss. Mummy love you! : )

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