Working Mum Vs Stay At Home Mum

Oh wow what an amazing discussion about working mothers v's career mothers during 7/05/08 on FM100.3>>>
There is always a battle over making decision like this. This can be controversial. Well, obviously both types of mothers have to work very hard, that's for sure! So who's lifestyle is the easiest of the two? That's hard to say. Although i am a dad instead of the mum, it has been a hard time for me letting my wife stay at home without bringing extra income to support the family financially together with me, but if i let my wife go to work, my worries will turn to the development of our daughter not to mention that her bonding with her might also be affected.

Some listener point out that research has demonstrated that the early relationship between infants and preschoolers is the foundation of all subsequent personality development.Thus they deciced to stay at home and nurture their baby by thier own.
But is there really evidence to support that statement, because we know that there are children who are in quality day care whom have increases in cognitive skills, intellect, social skills and social comfort. So again this can be controversial.

I have never been one way or another - Because I thought that we have to fight for the right of choice and should not be made feel guilty for the choice we made.

Easier said than done, - We manage to feel guilty about everything we do. From doing enough or too less, if we say the wrong thing, give too much advice, spend some time on our own projects or hobbies, neglect the housework, neglect the child, not being able to support financially for the family, not being a good wife, husband, in-law, father or mother etc etc etc the opportunities for feeling guilty are endless.
After listening to the discussion aired on the radio, i noticed there is a obvious split between the two groups. Each have their valid points and views,I wouldn't say that either one is better or harder than the other.

My final conclusion is, i am not so sure about others, but we are definitely a pair of happy parent feeling delight seeing our daughter growing and becoming a happy baby. Not only we felt she's growing happy, but we are satisfy with her over all development. Her physical growth( my wife BF her for 11 months and is still feeding), her way of communcating with us ( we teach her sign laungage), and to be able to witness her first sitting, first crawling and perhap her first walking soon is truely amazing. All this wouldn't be suceeded if my wife choose to work. All i can say is, we are both glad to made the choice to stay at home.